Trying new things can be hard. Especially if we are not accustomed to stepping outside of our comfort zone regularly. Therefore, if you have never attended a yoga studio before, it might feel nerve wracking. You may even find yourself thinking some of the following…

What is something that all humans have in common? After decades of interviewing a range of individuals from Barack Obama to Beyonce to top entrepreneur's and everyday folk, Oprah Winfrey shared that at the end of each interview, her guest would turn to her and quietly ask ‘Was that OK?’ It was through these moments that she discovered that most of us are asking the following questions as we move through life:

I'm all too familiar with staying in a 'safe space' of what is familiar or comfortable but I've learnt over the years that I need to become comfortable with discomfort (although this is a daily practice). Particularly when it comes to trying new things. We might stay in our comfort zone for many reasons: fear of looking silly, fear of failure, fear of judgement, fear of truly being seen, fear of not living in the box that we have put ourselves in, or that others have put us in (how obedient of us!) The list goes on. I've discovered however, that once we courageously push through a fear, it's amazing how the force of that fear loses momentum and we realise that the worst part of the experience was fear itself. Often the outcome is a lot more underwhelming than we might have thought! You might ask yourself, Why on earth was I so afraid? The good news is, for that bravery we are usually rewarded in some way. Whether its learning a new skill, building confidence in a certain area, making a new connection, gaining respect for ourselves or from others, or even learning a lesson if things don't go the way we had hoped. Most importantly we strengthen our courage 'muscle' 💪

Recently, I've been having some thoughts about meditation and how difficult it is for many people, myself included. I wrote them all down and came to the following conclusion - What do you think?

Someone asked me about my thoughts on this book recently after I posted a picture of it on my instagram. Here's what I replied: I really enjoyed this book, it explains meditation and mindfulness in a simple and unpretentious way. The chapters are short too which allows you to read a few pages and then put it down to digest and go about your day. Wherever you go, there you are was written by Jon Kabat-Zinn, originally in 1994. It's recently been republished and updated slightly but I would argue that it is still just as relevant in 2023 as it was back in the 90's. Which is no surprise, since the art and science of mindfulness is an ancient practice and nothing about it has changed. Kabat-Zinn is an American Professor of Medicine who has a deep interest in Buddhism and the practices of yoga and mindfulness. He's one of the key individuals responsible for introducing the practice of mindfulness to the west and demystifying what is traditionally an eastern way of life. Jon founded the 'Stress Reduction Clinic' at the University of Massachusetts Medical School with the view to help patients with stress, pain and illness. He developed a program which removed the spiritual elements of the Buddhist mindfulness teachings in order to create a secular and scientific framework for his patients to benefit from which has been hugely successful. There are loads of gems inside the pages and it's the kind of book where you want to get out your highlighter to underline passages that you can refer back to. This quote below, has to be one of my favourite's that I pulled from the book.

Over the past couple of years I've been studying the practice of self-compassion. Before I started delving into this topic, I probably couldn’t have given you a clear definition of what this term really meant. It sounded lovely in my head but I didn’t really have the understanding of what it really was to put it into words. Kristen Neff PhD is a pioneer in this topic and what I've written below is inspired by her comprehensive work that she has done on the topic of compassion. SO, what is self-compassion? Self compassion is the sum of three components: Mindfulness Self-Kindness Common Humanity When we practise self compassion we are treating ourselves like we would a dear friend and becoming an ally for ourselves (self-kindness). This doesn’t mean that we are ‘letting’ ourselves get away with destructive behaviour as an important distinction is that we are practising self compassion with wisdom. Self compassion allows us to acknowledge our suffering by turning towards it (mindfulness), offering ourselves kindness and understanding, acknowledging that we all suffer (common humanity) and then moving forward. It is a practice which means it isn’t always easy and we can experience distress upon offering ourselves self compassion. This can be a good sign and it is something that needs to be worked with via allowing, reducing or regulating. Why is it useful? Self compassion is useful because it allows us to free ourselves from ourselves. Meaning, our harsh inner critic is often the one that is holding us back in life. For example it might hold us back from trying new things. Our inner critic might tell us that we aren’t capable of something or that we are a bad person for making a mistake which could cause us to feel unworthy of love or connection with others. When we are able to greet ourselves like a friend, from a genuine place, we are more likely to move about the world with ease. When we do inevitably fail or slip up, which we all do, we are able to pick ourselves back up with kindness and brush ourselves off by acknowledging the pain, learning from it, but then moving on without ruminating or prolonging suffering. Self compassion is also useful, as it means that we are more likely to take personal responsibility for actions and avoid repeating mistakes - which is backed up by research findings. It also allows us to acknowledge that we are connected to all other living beings and that we must practice compassion towards others as they are imperfect just like ourselves.